Maintaining Our Composure

Rabbi Joey Haber

Maintaining Our Composure

Rabbi Joey Haber

March 5, 2026

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How could they do such a thing??? This is the question that jumps out at us as we read the story of חטא העגל , the sin of the golden calf, in this week's parashah . Just weeks after beholding Hashem's revelation, declaring נעשה ונשמע ("We will do and we will listen!") and receiving the Torah, how could Beneh Yisrael bow to an idol? The Gemara in Masechet Shabbat (89) answers this question for us. It tells that Beneh Yisrael knew that Moshe was supposed to spend forty days atop Mount Sinai receiving the Torah from Hashem, but they miscalculated. They thought the thirty-ninth day was the fortieth day. When afternoon came and he had yet to return, they got nervous. Then the Satan stepped in and עירבב את העולם – "confounded the world," making the world dark and seem chaotic. The Satan also showed the people an image of Moshe lying dead in a coffin. Benei Yisrael thus lost their bearings and their composure. And once people get flustered and frantic, they're prone to act irrationally and to do things they know are very wrong. If we are honest with ourselves, we will notice how true this is in our lives. So many of the mistakes we make are made when we get flustered. When we're tired, when we're not feeling well, when we're disappointed, when we're anxious, when we're aggravated – it is often in these situations when we make bad decisions, and when we say things that we know we shouldn't say. This usually happens when we become "confounded," when the world becomes dark, when life s