July 12, 2021 · 00:05:48
Besides for honoring parents there is an additional mitzvah to honor a brother, mother's husband, and fathers wife from the verse [(Shemoth 20:12): "Honor your father and [ve'eth] your mother," as explained in Kethuvoth 103a)]. Unfortunately people assume there may be an allowance to speak ill about family but in actuality it's more severe. The basic mitzvah of honoring parents are made of two categories: honor and revere. To revere parents practically means not to stand/sit in their place, contradict their words, and not to declare his parents correct as if his position on the matter has standing. To honor parents is to give them food, drink, clothing, and providing transportation. If a parent makes a request of a child, the Sefer HaMiknah says including in "not contradicting their words" is following an action they say to do. Besides for the activities mentioned in the Shulchan Aruch, a person is also required to honor his parents in his mind and view them as uniquely special people. The way to come to this is by noticing their positive attributes and appreciate them to the degree that there is no parallel to them in the world. Chofetz Chaim, Introduction (Asei) וְאִם הוּא אָחִיו הַגָּדוֹל (י) אוֹ בַּעַל אִמוֹ אוֹ אֵשֶׁת אָבִיו, עוֹבֵר גַּם כֵּן עַל מִצְוַת עֲשֵׂה דְּכִבּוּד, דְּאִתְרַבּוּ מֵרִבּוּיָא (שמות כ' י"ב) דִּ''וְאֶת'', כִּדְאָמְרִינַן בִּכְתֻבּוֹת (דף ק"ג) וְכָל שֶׁכֵּן אִם, חַס וְשָׁלוֹם, עַל אָבִיו וְאִמוֹ מַמָשׁ, דְּוַדַּאי עוֹבֵר עַל מִצְוַת עֲשֵׂה דְּכִבּוּד